How to make your marriage better

Understanding that your wife’s deepest need is for love and a husband’s deepest need is for respect is the core in how to make your marriage better. His love motivates her respect, her respect motivates his love.
How does a husband spell love to his wife?
Following is a brief review of six concepts. If a you as a husband can memorise them and use even one or two of them each day, it will go a long way in keeping your relationship intact. Husband should ask himself:
1. Closeness: Am i always remembering to move toward her and accept her need to talk and connect with me to be reassured of my love?
2. Openness: Do i share my thoughts with her, and am i sure I’m not resisting her efforts to draw me out?
3. Understanding: Am i careful not to ‘’fix’’ her every time she talks about one of her concerns or problems? Am i remembering that she is an integrated personality and whatever happens affects all of her, especially her emotions?
4. Peacemaking: Am i always willing to resolve issues, and am i careful to never say, ‘’let’s just drop it and move on’’?
5. Loyalty: Do i constantly look for ways to tell her that i will be loyal to her forever-that she’s the one love of my life, the only woman for me?
6. Esteem: Do i always let her know that i treasure her and put highest value on her as a person? Do i let her know that what she does and thinks are important to me? Does she know i couldn’t possibly do without her?
How does a wife show respect to her husband?
A wife uses these six concepts to let him know how important and vital he is to her. A wife should ask herself:
1. Conquest: Am I always standing behind him and letting him know I support him in his work and endeavours in his field?
2. Hierarchy: Do I let him know I respect and appreciate his desire to protect and provide for me and the family? What have I said recently to communicate this?
3. Authority: Have I gone on record that, because he has the primary responsibility for me (even to die for me), I recognize him as having the primary authority? Do i let him be the leader? How have i helped in that regard recently?
4. Insight: Do I trust his ability to analyse things and offer solutions and not just depend on my ‘’intuition’’?
5. Relationship: Do i spend shoulder-to-shoulder time with him whenever I can? Do i let him know that I am his friend as well as his lover?
6. Sexuality: Do i honour his need for sexual release even when I don’t feel like it?
As a husband shows love to his wife and a wife spells out respect to her husband, they can’t help but meet each other’s needs. The beauty of it is, if you meet a need in your spouse, it will come back to you as your spouse meets one of your needs. The key is always being willing to cut your spouse some slack.....Good luck.

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