Getting ditched happens every day. As you read this article, there is someone, somewhere who just got dumped for one reason or the other. It can never come with a good feeling. If by any chance, you went through this experience recently, then join me while I brush through some tips that can help you recover.
Firstly, we will see the phases of break up.
Phase one: The injury phase.
At this phase, you cry, you are depressed, it seems the whole world has come to an end for you, you don’t eat, you spend time in dark rooms, you wish the ground would open up to swallow you, you text him/her to the extent that you are becoming mad, you drive by his/her office or house to check if his/her car is parked there, you swear you would never get into any relationship again.. In fact, at this phase, you are beyond hopeless.
Hang out a lot with family and friends. Go to the beach, go out to see some movies, comedies. Get busy with something else (no matter how difficult). This phase is a natural process which will pass with time.
Phase two: The anger phase
Here, the wrath in you is activated. Your heart is filled with vengeance. You ask yourself what ever gave him/her the guts to dump you. At this phase, you are halfway to recovery.
Destroy every belonging of his/hers’ in your possession. Burn love letters, tear up pictures. This way, you have finalized the breakup yourself.
Phase three: The letting-go phase.
Hmmmmm......at this phase, you have arrived your destination. You become glad that you actually broke up with him. You start asking yourself the ‘so special thing in him/her that actually made you fall in love. You are back to your normal self, ready to start new relationships.
Falling out of love is not a day job. It takes time just as falling in love does. Bear in mind that no matter what, life goes on. There’s a second or third chance to meet that special person. Your own person. Get a grip and start afresh. You will be happy you did....Good luck.
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